Some
days, without knowing how or why, everything seems to be going wrong and we
face one little annoying incident, argument and misunderstanding after another;
we lose our temper or people lose theirs with us and everything is messed up
and at a complete chaos. We usually call those days bad days or rough days or
"One of those days" and yet we never exactly understand how it all
started and who the one to blame is. Some find it easy to blame fate or God
while others remain patient and say that they are simply being tested. But the
truth is, these days always remain as a mystery, especially when you at the end
of the day come to update your facebook, twitter...etc status and you say: I
had a bad day or the worst day in my life (if you like to exaggerate) and
suddenly you find many friends commenting "me too" or you may even
find many other friends complaining about their day too in different ways, so
what really happened? Did the whole town have a bad day or what!? The truth is,
yes, don't be surprised if I say that almost the whole town had a bad day and
don't be shocked if I say that all this was caused by one person and this
person can be anyone of us, including YOU!
Here
is how it goes, when something negative happens the moment you start your day,
if you let that negativity really get to you and affect your mood and psychological
or spiritual status, then just like a contagious disease it will be transmitted
to everything you do and encounter that day and thus the negativity and bad
mood will accompany you all the day and because likes attract likes, like a
magnet you will even attract more negative situations and therefore you end up
with having that horrible day. Yet, it doesn't stop at that, this negative
energy is a parasite and it will need more people and more peace of mind to
ruin to make sure that it prevails, therefore, your bad mood and negative attitude
are going to affect other people around you who may naturally take it very personally
and make it their own state of mind for that day and as a result allow it to
control the course of their day which will not be any happier than yours.
To
make it simpler, let's imagine this situation: a man wakes up late because for
some reason his alarm didn't go off. He's furious and nervous because he is
going to be late for work, he fights with his wife and blames her because she didn’t
wake him up, he yells at his kids, he's so nervous and in such a hurry that he
gets very clumsy, he buttons his shirt in the wrong way, he spills his tea on
his shirt then he leaves home after already creating enough disturbance to make
his wife and kids' day go wrong too. Then on the way to work he curses and
yells at other drivers, he fights with a few of them and gives them a bad start
for their day too. Then when he arrives at work, he is reproached by his boss
and he takes that very personally too and he fights with his coworkers, juniors
or seniors and he's rude to a customer who is going to complain him to his
supervisor and again he is reproached and he receives a warning. He makes a lot
of mistakes and he has to do each task twice because he's so stressed out and
distracted. Then he rushes home and fights with a few other drivers who are by
now more violent because they had their share of a bad day already. Finally he's
home to find his wife's cooking as bad as it had never been because he gave her
a negative start for her day, so he's going to complain about that too and an
argument is going to take place. His kids did bad at school or had a fight with
a friend or they may had beaten up some kid because the negative energy they received
form their father and finally everyone whom the father encountered and gave a
hard time for that day are also going to give others hard times that in the end
everyone's day for some "Unknown" reason was simply a bad day.
With
the scenario given, it's easy to say that the guy who got up late is the one to
blame for everyone's bad day but this isn't true at all. The man started the
pattern, but it could have been stopped immediately by the very first people he
encountered, his wife for instance could have tried to calm him down, she
shouldn't have been so sensitive to his bad temper and take it so personally,
she could have tried not to react to it and give him a chance to calm down. If she
failed then the first driver he fought with could have been so nice and polite
that his rage would have calmed down immediately and the negative energy would
have worn out little by little. However, unfortunately, we embrace negative energy
and run towards it and claim it once we see it as if it is some precious
treasure, therefore, we all react negatively to it, make it our own personal
issue and allow it to consume all our liveliness and positive energy within
seconds. As a result, whenever you encounter someone in a bad mood who is
looking for a fight, don't react to him at all, don't show annoyance or
sympathy or anything at all and keep a positive smile and say the right polite
words to calm him down in case he was so violent and keep in mind that whatever
he is saying or doing is because he's having a bad day and none of it is your
problem so you don't need to make it yours and keep that negative pattern going.
On the other hand, if it was you who started their day with an unpleasant occurrence,
try to keep your focus away from it, don't put any energy into it by simply
taking it as it is and then letting it slide by thinking of anything positive
awaiting you that day or even future or past events that are always capable of
bringing you back into the right mood or you can simply listen to your favorite
music, play with your pet or kid, think of someone you love or any other thing
that you think it can make you happy again and you can actually try more than
one thing at a time. Finally, next time some negative incident happens, watch
your attitude towards it because you never know, it may actually be you who is
going to control everyone's mood for that day and you may become the reason
behind all the negative status updates for that day!
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