You Forgive them because…

The different beliefs and spiritual teachings tell us much about forgiving those who harm us, those who wrong us, those who backstab us and those who cheat us. Yet, no matter how profound these word sound and what calming effects they have, we always find ourselves caught in the traps of the same question "But how can we forgive someone who caused us all that pain?" that's a very reasonable question indeed but it has an answer that can apply to all of us.

When someone lies to you, cheats you, wrongs you and is unkind to you, we feel pain and we even sometimes say that our heart is broken, but we shouldn't because this is not the truth. When they break your heart, it's not your heart that they break but theirs. When they wrong you, they wrong no one but themselves, when they lie, cheat and back-stab you, they lie to no one, they cheat no one and backstab no one but themselves because the bad guy here is not you, you remain true and faithful, you did nothing wrong and hurt no one, so it's not your karma that is ruined, it's not your path that is lost, it's not your good angel that has fallen and it's not you who shall reap evil because it wasn't you who sow it in the first place, it was all they, so any harm they do you is a harm they do themselves and you can actually just get up, shake the dust off and leave with your dignity, your good nature and your integrity remaining intact. You will be able to move on and all you will be taking with you is the lesson that you learned from the whole experience, it is they who will be left with their shame, their mistakes and the poisonous fruit they planted. As a result, the pain you feel, don't make it yours, don't take it personally because it isn't yours, it's theirs, your only pain is actually the pain of seeing and knowing what those wretched ones brought onto themselves, what bad karma they brought themselves, what misfortunes they will have to deal with, your pain is nothing but feeling sorry for them. Therefore, when you see this, when you see how ruined they are, when you see that with or without your grudge they are doomed and they will have to reap one by one the evil they sow, it becomes so easy to forgive them and walk away because your paths have parted now; you are the honest and they are the liar, you are the kind and they are the cruel, you are the loyal and they are the cheater and thus you are now heading towards two different destinations. If they try hard, if they face the consequences of their bad actions bravely and learn from them, your paths may cross again but until then, you bear no grudge and you feel no pain because all that had happened stopped being your problem because it was never yours. It was theirs and it will always be.